The Mobile Matrix - What is the way out for our kids?!

Mobile phone is so addictive! How to pull my kid out, to something useful?

Most of us would have seen the movie, "The Matrix". Right? For sure we all enjoyed the movie but did we get the actual story? Could hear your mind voice :). Don't worry, I am with you. For sure i am not going to help you understand the story. In fact, I am going to open up a more vulnerable and more complicated matrix. Yes! The Mobile Matrix!

The Mobile Matrix - The team to help our kids!

Impact Of The Mobile Matrix On Our Kids!

Lots of forwards and lots of preaching on the negative impact of mobile phones. Should I add to it?! This was the question for past few weeks. Finally, I decided to add to the preaching. But with a different perspective!

Physical Health

Just one point here. Our parents physically worked so hard! Their childhood was spent in all athletic games. Not even a minute in TV or phone. How is their health now?! After their 60s, so tired, most of them have knee problems, eye and other health issues. A physically sound generation became so weak at 60s. When do we think our Kids will retire?

Mental Health

From our experience, we very well know only positive attitude will keep us going. Have we ever watched the videos of our kids? Or have we ever played the games that our kids are playing in the mobile phones? When we spend an hr playing their games, we could realize the amount of mental pressure and could sense the volume of negativity in us. When we play it non-stop? Do you think our mind will be relaxed at the end? What do you think about their mental health after few years?

Impact Conclusion

With more physical and mental issues, what kind of generations are we going to create?! Link it with evolution. The theory behind evolution is to create a fittest offspring. Nature knows only the fittest will survive. What about our future generations?! Do you think they are fit enough to survive the problems of the future?

What about our future generations? Will they stay healthy and evolve strong?!

Who Is Responsible?

Many of our Kids are into this Mobile Matrix now. Who is responsible? Whom to be blamed? Should we blame the Mom who played him the video to complete his food? Or blame the Granny who gave him the mobile so that she could watch her TV? Or blame the Dad who gave him the mobile so that he was not disturbed? Who is ready to take the responsibility? Definitely it didn't start with the Kid. We all were busy with our work so we didn't want our kid to menace with it. Just for the sake of our work, we gave the easy option to him, The Mobile!

Saving our kid from The Mobile Matrix is a combined responsibility!

The Escape Route

The blame game is not going to help anyone. We for sure live for our kids and we want them to be hale and healthy! So, what is the escape route?

Spending Time With Our Kids

Do you think Kids like mobile more than anything else? No! They very much like to be part of all that is around. In fact, they like to play with us more than playing with the phone.

Here are the charter of each one of us! Not so tough when compared to other things that we sacrifice for our kids!

Mom

• Kitchen is the best place to engage the kids. Kids for sure would want to be with you in the kitchen and help you. Again, hear your mind voice :). Yes, lots of not so kid friendly items in the Kitchen. Involving them at the kitchen will for sure increase your cooking time. But when you involve them with consistency, they will learn to use all the items including the knife, stove and will help you in the long run!

• Just not to disturb you in cooking, you don't have to give the mobile phone as an easy option. Involve them in drawing, crafts etc. Whichever they like! I know that all Moms are good at multi-tasking. For sure you could manage the cooking and your Kids craft in parallel

Mom! Your engagement is the key!

Dad

• We very well know that Kids grow by seeing us and not in the way we preach them. Right? A strong pill for you. You cannot use mobile phone in front of them. I know most of you would say that you have urgent emails to check or need some relaxed chat/browsing after a day long work in the office. Right? But nothing at the cost of your Kid! If you think you have useful things to do with mobile, what will your kids think? My dad uses the mobile and why not I? Right?

• When you use it for relaxation, are you really feeling relaxed?! From my observation, most of us are not! Because we never really talk to our friends or chat with our friends to relax. 90% of the time, we just forward the content that was created by some unknown person. It will finally lead to some debate or argument within the group. We have become courier boys! Right? These contents are created just to spoil our mood and push us into mental issues. Why so? Who is getting benefited because of such vulnerable content? I leave it to you. You should also find a better alternative for you to relax than to hook on to the phone. Playing with your kid or playing your favorite sport or dance will be much more relaxing than any other app in the phone!

Dad! You could relax more with your kid than with your phone!

Granny

• In our days, our thatha paaties will tell lots of stories. They will only pick us back from school! take us to nearby places! feed us! In whatever they do, they used to tell us lots of stories. Either their stories or about our history! What happened now? As like kids, they are also seeing the mobile for the 1st time. So they want to spend more time with it to browse and chat?! :). No issues! But one request. Don't forget your duty to inspire the kids with your stories and history! We loved it a lot and i am sure that our Kids will love them too.

• Same suggestion for you. Don't use mobile or TV when the kids are around. Let's engage them positively. Motivate them with your stories.

Granny! You could inspire the kids with your stories!

I know, it will be tough to start with. But when you get this rolling, I assure, you will have a very nice time at home and a peaceful life :)

Conscious Use of Mobile Phones

Whenever we use mobile phones, we need to ensure that no kids are around. Either it be at home or in a public gathering or in trains or buses. We need to be cautious about the next generation watching us.

A week back, I saw a kid watching video while having her breakfast in a restaurant! I know we started playing videos at home for the kids to eat. Somehow I had made up my mind for it. But playing videos in the restaurants?! It will not only impact your kid but also will impact the kids in the other tables!

Mobile phones are so addictive like the cigarettes and drinks! Do we use them in front of our kids? No right? You will have many reasons why you don't smoke and drink in front of your kid. Most of it should apply to using the mobile phone as well!

Mobile Phones are equally addictive like the cigarettes and drinks!

Switch Off App Notifications!

We always know that mobile phones are bad for us. Right? Then how do we use them so often?

Do I have any whatsapp message or does my friends have posted anything interesting in the Facebook?! Only this curiousness pulls you into your phone. This is my observation. Just have a thought. You might get other reasons as well.

This is not your problem. Those apps were built with your addiction in mind! I even read that experts from casinos are hired to build this addiction in the apps. How to overcome this?! I have an idea! Just disable the notifications from all the installed apps. You never will get such kinds of addictive messages. You could check them only when you want to see them. In other words, you could control the phone instead of the phone controlling you! Nice?!

Experts from Casinos are hired to infuse addiction in the apps!

Thanks for your time. I would have been raw/rough in stressing some points. The intention is to highlight the importance. Nothing else. Mobile is a serious menace but not an impossible one. With our conscious effort, we could remove it altogether to build a better future for our kids!

Lets stay positive and stay happy :)

ALL THE BEST!